Sharing stories from others who believe self-care is foundational to their best self
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Self-care to me is defined as the practice of taking an active role in protecting, improving, or preserving one’s own physical and mental well-being to promote happiness. I love this definition because it implies that self-care is PROACTIVE and that you have to take an initiative and be active in the role of your own health. I also like it because it implies that it does not necessarily have to be an act of improving but can also be an act of preserving what already exists within us. Nobody controls your own well-being, health, and happiness more than you and you should not rely on anyone else to do it.
Self-care to me means filling up your own cup before trying to help fill up anyone else’s cup. Self-care is about taking an ACTIVE role in your mental and physical health and well-being to create the best version of you. You simply cannot take care of anyone else well if you are not well yourself mentally or physically.
Self-care for me includes things that improve my mental and physical health and wellbeing. I mainly focus on tasks that improve my body or mind in more ways than one. Tasks that for me personally truly make me feel more confident, feel good in my skin, and release those feel good hormones and endorphins. These things include:
- Movements: workouts, yoga, walks, runs, stretches at least daily
- Getting adjusted at least 2 times a week
- Getting massages at least monthly
- Self-help or motivational empowering books, podcasts, quotes at least daily
- Candle Lit Bubble Baths at least biweekly
- Jam Session as needed
- Hair Done
- Buying a new clothing item (careful on this one)
- Meditation/Diaphragmatic Breathing
I can tell when I need a bit more self-care in my life when I start to notice my mean girl and inner critic kicking up her volume. Negative self-talk, negative thoughts and behaviors start to show their colors in my life when I have not taken care of me. I think this is my body’s way of trying to grab my attention. I quickly turn to want to blame others or things just don’t seem to be going “right”. That’s when I know I need some self-care and self-love. It’s a sign I have neglected areas of myself and body.
This is tricky, I would say motivational or self-help books, podcasts, or quotes. It truly begins my day right each day with positivity and motivation and it keeps my brain and mind sharp.
A very simple essential and affordable self-care tool is Diaphragmatic breathing. You don’t need anything but a few quite minutes to yourself and your breath. It’s actually been shown that diaphragmatic breathing physically reduces your cortisol (stress) levels.
Taking care of yourself, mentally and physically daily. Knowing when to take emotional and physical breaks.
When I have a couple of days in a row where I come back home from work and feel too exhausted to do anything but sleep. Or I notice I’ve skipped a meal or two in the last couple of days and haven’t worked out. This usually means I have been working too many hours, unintentionally.
- Tibetan Bowls App – chimes briefly at intervals set by you throughout the day to remind you to breathe and be present for a moment. It is also a gentle alarm clock and timer for meditation practice
- Mindfulness App – gives you short messages throughout the day reminding you to be mindful and present.
- Calm App – has guided meditations with background music for destressing and for sleep.
Learning and implementing healing modalities into my daily life to sustain my vitality, dreams and longevity.
When I begin to feel disconnected from things I enjoy doing, this triggers self-care mode. I work diligently to make this world a great place to live and when I feel I'm not working hard enough or am not successful enough, this is my signal to take the day off and take care of myself.
Oh goodness... Spotify and Audible. Period. That’s it. I honestly don’t like the fact that I even have other apps on my phone.
My definition of self-care is anything that assists with nourishing your body, mind & soul. It involves being present in the moment – listening to your emotional & physical needs. Finding a state of inner peace. Having self-awareness to know what you need and when you need it.
- Drinking plenty of water – which I’ll be honest, the struggle is real. Recently I’ve been making my own cucumber and/or cucumber + mint water. It’s super refreshing and I find myself drinking more H2O!
- Meal prepping. I find if I to the grocery store during the weekend and meal prep a few things, I eat much better and stress less throughout the rest of the week.
- Journaling – I keep a gratitude journal at my bedside table. I keep it simple and only write three things I’m thankful for on a weekly basis. I ask my husband to do it with me – it’s been a great way to connect.
- Going to bed at a decent time – takes a lot of discipline especially since my husband is a night owl and likes to stay up late!
When I’m stressed or anxious. Step number one is having the awareness that you are stressed. For me, it’s a whole body sense of frustration & overwhelm. Lately, I’ve been working on deep breathing in the moment. It helps! My next goal is to try yoga and/or 5-10 minute meditations in the morning or evening.
- Insight Timer: I love that thousands of free meditations are offered. I go for long ones (especially before bed) or short five minute ones if I don’t have much time to spare at the start or end of my day.
- Instagram: Okay, I know what you might be thinking but there are a lot of insightful accounts out there (like WonderWell for example!).The key is following accounts that make you feel good or add value to your interests. I’ve actually been very inspired by a lot of people out there!
- Podcasts: I’ve become obsessed with podcasts especially over this past year. I love educational podcasts especially related to health and wellness, but I can become easily hooked on thrillers, murder mysteries, etc.
- Oura Ring- It keeps me informed of my sleep patterns, movement, and readiness.
- Insight Timer App- The free version is wonderful with so many different guided meditations.
- Five-Minute Journal- The format is precise, quick, and easy to put me in a gratitude, motivated, and reflective state of mind.
Listening to my body and mind, and responding with healthy thoughts and behaviors to live a daily life as stress free and grounded as possible.
When I start feeling stressed, I am easily distracted, procrastinate, and feel out of balance in all areas. I have to step back and evaluate where I can jump back on healthy behaviors to get back into my groove.
- Google Calendar
- Whatever book I am reading at the time
- My face care routine.
If I am on schedule, allowing time to read and taking care of my skin....that's a win in my book.
MADE WITH LOVE AND CARE
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